🪙 The Excuse Coin: Excuses vs. Ownership

Taught/Shown: Excuses were modeled as survival or avoidance.
Choose: Own the outcome. Stop giving power to reasons.

“Excuses cash checks your future can’t cover.”

Excuses Are Expensive

Every man’s got a pocketful of excuses.

“I’m too tired.”
“I don’t have time.”
“My wife doesn’t support me.”
“The kids make it impossible.”

Excuses don’t just buy you time — they buy you bondage. Every excuse you make today is a debt your kids will pay tomorrow.

The Arena of Excuses

Picture stepping into the arena, sword in hand. The enemy’s standing across from you. Instead of fighting, you throw your sword down and say:

“Sorry, my back hurts.”
“Sorry, the weather’s bad.”
“Sorry, I wasn’t trained right.”

The arena doesn’t pause because you’ve got reasons. Excuses don’t stop the fight — they just guarantee you lose.

The Cost of Excuses

Your kids don’t hear, “Dad’s tired.” They hear, “Dad doesn’t show up.”
Your wife doesn’t hear, “Work was tough.” She hears, “I’m not important enough to push through.”
Your body doesn’t hear, “I don’t have time.” It hears, “I’m fine decaying.”

Excuses feel light in the moment. But they’re heavy as hell when they pile up — and your family carries the load.

The Ownership Pivot

On one side: Excuses = delay, decay, distance.
On the other: Ownership = action, growth, connection.

Ownership says: “I blew it. I’m fixing it.”
Excuses say: “It wasn’t my fault. I’ll try someday.”

Why We Run to Excuses

Excuses are lies with three disguises:

Blame-shifting – “It’s work’s fault.” “It’s the kids’ fault.”
Delay tactics – “I’ll start Monday.” “When things calm down.”
Minimizing – “It’s not a big deal.” “It could be worse.”

The Broken Tool

Excuses are like a wrench that slips every time you apply pressure. Would you keep using it? Throw out the broken tools. Pick up ownership instead.

Flipping the Coin: From Excuses to Ownership

Catch It in Real Time: Swap “I can’t” with “I won’t.” Truth hurts, but it frees you.
Replace with Action: “I don’t have time” → “I didn’t prioritize it.” Now fix it.
Declare Out Loud: Silence hides excuses. Speech builds trust.
Stack the Wins: One owned mistake > a thousand excuses.

Brotherhood Challenge

This week, kill one excuse you’ve been dragging. Replace it with one owned action. Share it with the Brotherhood. Let them hold you to it.

Excuses rot. Ownership builds. Every time you flip the coin, you choose: do you leave your kids a house full of excuses… or a blueprint built on ownership?